Simi Drey, an award-winning British-Nigerian actress and presenter, has said that after becoming engaged, she called off her intentions to marry her ex-lover.
Simi revealed this in a recent WithChude podcast episode, where she talked about her romance and marriage ending in divorce.
The actress gave an explanation for her choice, saying that after becoming engaged, she became aware that she wasn’t really content or contented.
According to the media personality, she received backlash following the cancellation.
“My relationship with my ex wasn’t flawless. He was never abusive or unfaithful. However, you are aware of when you are not entirely content or joyful. We definitely live in a culture that places a strong emphasis on marriage, particularly for women. My friends used to ask me, “When will you get married?” but my parents never put any pressure on me.
Finally, he made a proposal. “Is he really the person I am going to marry?” was a worry I recall having. My mother and I were quite close. “Simi, don’t do this,” she warned when I told her I was engaged. But I assured her that everything was alright.
“My mother would never forbid me from doing something or put me on a blacklist. She was aware, however, that I didn’t feel whole in the relationship. I called my father and hung up with tears of fear rather than happiness.
After two months, I called my fiancé and suggested that we focus on improving our relationship before considering marriage.
“I wanted to marry someone who was worthy, so a month later, I didn’t feel like I wanted to marry this man. I called it quits on our engagement. I had to be honest with myself that I wasn’t happy in the relationship, even if I was getting more criticism from everyone around me.
After I departed, reality set in. I came to the conclusion that being happy and unmarried is preferable to being married and sad. It is a no if I don’t feel valued or if I think a man is better than me because of his wealth or title.
